How to Recover From Flunking the Bar

It is the time of year where I remember what it was like after taking the bar exam and  finally working as a lawyer! It was exhilarating! I wanted to be a lawyer since I was TWELVE and I was finally doing it.

I was seeing clients and checking on whether I spotted the right legal issues with colleagues.

I was writing arguments to the Social Security Administration and the Immigration and Naturalization Services (now ICE) on behalf of my clients.

I was attending continuing legal education classes and PRESENTING at them at the DC BAR!

I moved to a new city and was putting together a community that included lawyers and non-lawyers. I was dating.

It was soooooo exciting.

However, by late October/early November, I received my Bar results. It wasn’t good news. I actually think I felt the blood leave everywhere but my feet.

Never one to wallow in sorrow, I told my supervisors, who assured me that I would not lose my job. I would simply have to take it again. I registered for the course. Again. If you are reading this post, you may be in the same situation. What should you do?

  • Take time to mourn. Connect with your community.
  • Remember why you did this to start out with. What doors were going to open because you were a lawyer, and don’t forget it.
  • Remember that your value is not determined by this test. Or any other one. Your value is determined by how you respond to it.
  • Yep, go ahead and register to take the Bar and the Bar Exam course again.

Once the course started just after Christmas (or was it New Years . . .), I dragged on doing some of the same unsuccessful things I did the first time. Then a friend of a friend changed my life. He said “thirty questions a day keeps the flunking away.”

Phew, because this time, I was working full-time and studying for the Bar.

I learned a lot from that experience. So if you want more information about what “thirty questions a day keeps the flunking away” means and other ways to stay sane, look no further.


A System for Writing

I had made a half decision to go on the academic job market. I applied for Visiting Assistant Professor positions. I had seen an ad for something in my field in a different city that was in commuting distance. They required a 20-page writing sample.

I balked.

I had a dissertation chapter, but there was no way I could reduce that to 20 pages in four weeks. So I didn’t apply.

At that point, I realized that I couldn’t stay stuck in this cycle, or else I wouldn’t stand a prayer of ever getting an academic interview, never mind the job!

Not that much later, a colleague of mine posted the link to a book that provided you with a SYSTEM for revising your longer work so that it could be a publishable article. I couldn’t find it in her FB posts, so I asked her for the source.

I never looked back.

To this day, even after I get feedback from a journal about something I submitted, I turn to How to Write Your Journal Article in Twelve Weeks to respond to their feedback. I have learned so much about writing and how to structure your article around your argument. I have a system by which to attack my work.

The author’s name should be St. Wendy Lauren Belcher. Really. Maybe she could be beatified!

I no longer start at my computer wondering where to start as I try to whittle down something. I wish I knew about this when the posting for the job went up.

She’s an advocate of social writing. That makes me nervous every single time. I do it anyway.

But you may not want to have to wrestle with finding someone to read your thesis statement or abstract. Wouldn’t it be nice to have this sort of support built in?

I agree. Get a Life and Write could do that for you. For more information, click here!

The Price of Distraction

I’ve been negotiating jet lag longer than I thought. I returned to the US almost 3 weeks ago and still wake up at 3 in the morning.

I think I sleep better when I go to bed really late. Like 1 or 2 in the morning. And then I wake up reliably at . . . 6 a.m.

Lately I’ve been taking melatonin before going to bed and I go to bed much earlier. This has been so much better.

What is the price I pay in terms of distraction when I go to bed so late?

In order to stay up late, because I’m fighting tiredness, I eat all kinds of crap. The night before last, I ate THE ENTIRE PINT of Ben and Jerry’s Chunky Monkey Vegan “frozen dessert.”

Chunky Monkey

Yep, it felt good going down, but my waistline . . .

Writing has been difficult. I. Keep. Yawning.

Writing my syllabi? PULLING TEETH!

Changing my sleep around helped shift other challenges. Yesterday, no super sugary snacks. This morning, writing was BOSSSS!!!!

It’s not just a price tag. It’s the other parts of our lives that fall apart when we don’t have the self-care we need and it impacts how we focus on our work.

It doesn’t have to be like that.

And it doesn’t have to be perfect. It’s a step at a time. I see that I take 2 steps forward and three back. That’s alright, I will move forward!

You can too!

Things Have Got to Get Better . . . Right?

Are you a woman in law or academia who has this gnawing feeling that something is OFF?

You are a passionate woman who:

  • Feels like everything is high stakes;
  • Can’t prioritize what’s important personally or professionally;
  • Feels like you have to please everyone for professional success be it making partner or climbing the academic ladder;
  • Feels like you still have to be affable and attractive to be successful.

Yet, given how the world is going, it seems that nothing matters, including your dreams and goals.

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Whew, you made it

So you've just finished taking the Bar!

I hope it went well for you.

I remember taking the Bar and then diving in head first into the exam for professional responsibility. I had no clue how to manage that test (I hadn't learned what I know now about taking the Bar), but somehow, I did well enough on it that if I had passed the Illinois Bar, I would have made it.

Turns out it was good enough for the DC Bar.

But now that you've finished taking the Bar, get some rest. Step away from the busy grind as your working life is about to ramp up like nothing before.

Take some time to think about what went well about that experience (something did. Really!).

Take some time to think about what you hope never happens again!

Take some time to think about how you want to apply that to your legal career, because one can practice law in a way that makes you as tired, harried, high stakes, and burned out as studying for the Bar exam. Seriously. This is why so many lawyers are so profoundly dissatisfied with their careers have have high rates of addiction.

Your ability to focus and love your work is directly connected to making sure you take care of yourself, no matter the competition.

Get off the hamster wheel now where you exist on fumes and caffeine.

Set up a five-year work plan that details not only your professional success, but your personal goals for health, community, and happiness.

Stay tuned. I will be posting lots about self-care and distraction. I am here if you need a hand.

How Are You Feeling When Distracted

In addition to playing with writing for 15 minutes in a day (and it works, check out this post!), I have also been noticing what I’m feeling when distracted from my work.

Now that work may take on any number of forms.

It could be business, it could be writing, it could be research, hell, it could be parenting.

But distracted none the less.

Personally, I feel anxious when distraction shows up. And I’m not anxious about being distracted. I’m anxious about the thing I want to do.

I want to procrastinate.

I want to escape the hard task.

What are you feeling when distracted? Write your thoughts in the comments!

The Revise and Resubmit

Is revised and resubmitted.

No, I don’t feel relieved.

I’ve never felt so scared.

First of all, it’s 6 weeks late. Chances are that I’m not the first or last writer who has done that, but I still am not comfortable.

Secondly, although I’ve called myself carefully reading what the reviewers said and making sure I applied them to my work, I fear that I did something wrong. I can’t imagine that they would want my article.

Regardless, I finished it with many 15 minute writing sessions.

I finished it without loads of angst. Yes, I worry about what they’ll think, but not loads of angst.

I just finished reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic. I loved the book. She provides two choices – you can create your art (and she includes academic writers in that) with emotional angst and suffering, or you can create as a trickster.

What does she mean by that?

“the trickster trusts the universe. He trusts in its chaotic, lawless, ever-fascinating ways – and for this reason, he does not suffer from undue anxiety. He trusts that the universe is in constant play and, specifically, that it wants to play with him.”

I wouldn’t have received a revise and resubmit if the universe didn’t want to play with me.

So right now, I’m finished with academic writing for the duration of my vacation. That’s my treat.

There’s more writing to tackle when I return!