As we take on bigger things in our lives – writing books, building businesses, going for a promotion where we work (partner if you’re a lawyer), and many other things, visibility if of prime importance.
And the problem with visibility is that it won’t always go well.
So I’ve decided to push myself to be really visible. To be visible when I feel like it. To be visible when I don’t.
The week before Thanksgiving, I got egg on my face.
The reason why I built Michelle Dionne Thompson Coaching and Consulting Services is so that I could help women non-fiction writers, including academics and lawyers, build the world they write about. They often have common sense ways of making our world a much better place.
No, my website doesn’t say that now . . . that’s a 2018 project.
But I digress. The importance of doing that was so I can be an artist. I sing (opera and sacred music), I knit and crochet, and I write.
Clearly, I don’t put my artistic stuff on hold, I do it as I do everything else.
And yes, I consider any writing art. Including the academic stuff.
So the weekend before Thanksgiving, I decided to go for a small part in a local opera company. When I would be auditioning didn’t become clear until the morning of the audition.
Real pros would have immediately thought about what they were singing and used their routine to get in the right headspace.
I didn’t do this. I got distracted by stuff at home. I didn’t meditate that morning. I didn’t do yoga. I didn’t warm up. I was fully ungrounded.
I selected the song that I didn’t practice that day right before the audition. I couldn’t get my nerves together. I had to start the song twice and I had moments where I was out of tune.
It ended well. It started terribly.
Yep, this was a fail.
While I feel like hiding under a rock, I have decided to keep going. I did get a part – it is a part without dialogue or singing. I will be singing in the chorus (again). But in addition to knowing that ritual before something like this is CRITICAL to being focused, I also know that I will be more visible.
And THAT was the purpose of all of this. Visibility.
Yes, reframed, I snatched success out of the jaws of failure in spite of my pull to do the opposite.
It sucks, but get out there and get egg on your face! Nothing changes if you don’t!